To grow with your partner in life is every married couple’s dream. But for Wolf and Anita Gottschalk, this will not happen after they were forced to live apart because they cannot get into the same care home.
Since 1954, Wolf and Anita Gottschalk have been inseparable.
The pair stayed strong for 62 years, growing old together.
Wolf and Anita’s love story started when they were teens, living with their families in the same building in Dusseldorf, Germany.
And in 1954 they decided to get married, it was also the year of Queen Elizabeth’s Coronation. Soon Wolf and Anita moved to Surrey, British Columbia.
After spending their teens in the same block of flats and got married, their inseparable days has come to an end when they can’t be placed together in the same nursing home. Who would have thought that at their old age they will be separated for such a simple reason that can easily be waived since they were husband and wife – but not.
Now Wolf, 85, is housed in Yale Road Center separately to Anita, 81.
They are crying out their broken hearts for they have been away from each other’s arms for the last eight months.
Their granddaughter Ashley Bartyik wrote about the situation on Facebook, explaining:
“After 62 years together, they’re inseparable. They do everything together.”
In her interview with Daily Mail, she said that Anita was taking care of her husband until January. But the doctors said his condition is worsening and needed extra care that she could no provide.
Ashley quits her job to help her mom take care of Anita who has a pacemaker. However, the stress is worsening her grandmother’s health.
She added, “She has become almost completely immobile and uses a walker wherever she goes and a wheelchair depending on how far the walk is. My grandma can’t even kiss him [Wolf] goodnight now. He calls out her nickname, little mouse, for her when he sees her.”
“The saddest photo I have ever taken,” as Ashley witness the couple crying.
She explains: “After 62 years together in marriage they have been separated for eight months due to backlogs and delays by our health care system, whom have the power to have my grandpa moved to the same care facility as my grandmother. This has been a strain on our family, making the 30 minute commute to bring her to see him, every second day, so he does not forget her. “
“They cry every time they see each other, and it is heartbreaking.
“To make it worse, TODAY he was diagnosed with Lymphoma. Besides that limiting his time and making this more urgent, his dementia is growing ever stronger each day, but his memory of my grandmother has not faded an inch… yet.”
“We are afraid however that if they are living apart much longer, his memory of her won’t stay.”
“This has been a strain on our family, making the 30 minute commute to bring her to see him, every second day, so he does not forget her.
“Now with the news of cancer, our fight to have them in the same facility is even more urgent. He isn’t even getting proper care where he is, including no physical therapy which we were promised.”
Ashley had asked social media for aid in hope to raise awareness of her ‘Opi and Oma’ situations which they deserved to be placed together.
“Financially, physically and emotionally exhausted, me and my family are begging for your help my friends. Please share this and tag anyone that needs to see this post to get the help we need!”
Meanwhile, Anita is living in n The Residence at Morgan Heights, since July and the governing Fraser Health Authority has been working diligently with the family to get them together again.
They said, “Anita went into assisted living in July and we’ve been working hard with the family to get their loved ones reunited ever since. The issue is that Wolf requires more intense care than Anita: “He needs residential care while his wife needs assisted living care. This means we need to make sure the facility can accommodate both their needs. “
But still, Wolf transferring and reuniting with his little mouse is uncertain and the waiting continues for Ashely and her family.